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For me these include things like reading body language, eye contact, determining if something is literal or figurative, etc. While I do understand body language, It doesnt always come naturally to me – I might miss seemingly obvious things like someone doing the Come here motion with their hand, Someone needing me to get something for them thats behind me and pointing at it (but without verbally saying it), etc. A book like this is incredibly valuable to me, since it shows me what the body language looks like and what it means or may mean. Since I dont always recognize these things, even moreso than most people – This book is worth its weight in gold to me. For me these include things like reading body language, eye contact, determining if something is literal or figurative, etc.
A book like this is incredibly valuable to me, since it shows me what the body language looks like and what it means or may mean. Since I dont always recognize these things, even moreso than most people – This book is worth its weight in gold to me. The only warning I have for people, beware the literal power this book possesses. If you read it a section at a time and then look for that item, you will start to see how much people actually lie in general conversation. If you are a people watcher, this book will provide insight light years beyond what you think you understand. It also can help people who are a bit socially ackward with feeling comfortable around people they do not know. I will now look at everybody in a different way, and try not to be creepy when I pay attention to their body language, haha.
One thing I realized for writing body language in fiction, is that even though we can see gestures in detail in real life, we may not necessarily describe these gestures with so much precision in our books: one, because readers might not understand what it means or they might even misunderstand; two, when we interpret someones facial expression, we may jump to the emotion without consciously processing what physical gestures expressed that emotion. The only reason why I took off 0. 1 stars, was because I was led to believe by a certain paragraph in the book that we would see a chapter on peoples idiosyncratic, personal bodily gestures. We also take a generalized wide field view of their body language. We OBSERVE things like people rubbing their sweaty palms on their thighs or tapping their toes, or licking their lips, but those we just see without thinking about.
The impact this book has had a dramatic impact on the way I view human interactions. Before reading this book, I scarcely understood body language and non-verbal communication; now, thanks to this brilliant work by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins, I understand why some people seem more confident than others when they speak, how adopting different techniques can allow one to become more persuasive when speaking, what to look for when attempting to detect deception, etc. This book is more than a just a work of non-fiction: it is a guide to help you understand how non-verbal communication effects human interactions.
I will be referring back to this book many times in the future, as the wealth of knowledge that is explicated throughout this work is so valuable that it necessitates consistent review and contemplation. Plus, the book is written a way that makes it immediately accessible even to those who do little reading, so I wont have to worry about becoming confused by vague language when referring back to a specific page or technique. I loved reading this book, and I find myself continuously enjoying it whenever I refer back to it to help clarify any uncertainty I may have after interacting with another person. Whether you want to better understand what your significant other is thinking or feeling, what to do to come across as more friendly and inviting to strangers, or simply improve your non-verbal intelligence, this book will surely help you do all of that and more.
If you want to know all the details of what every body part is saying when you move this way or that, read this book, but I suggest you read it slowly, chapter by chapter with perhaps another book in between. I feel like a creep giving it only two stars but for me the book just felt OK. The book has a lot of interesting tuff about body language. . . For a grade schooler!This book should’ve been called “Body Language For Dummies”I’ve always been fascinated by body language, being able to see what people aren’t telling. I’m sure there are people that are able to lie through their teeth, make all the right gestures, hold their arms just right, or cross their legs in a matter that doesn’t show that they are uncomfortable, unsure, threatened or insecure, while talking to someone.
Unfortunately, most of the situations he used were from his encounters with his family, from his seminars and just general descriptions of a body language. For exampe:Or to see a picture of a person squinting, to understand that a person you are talking to/with thinks that you are full off it. That’s what I mean by “grade school knowledge of body language”. On the book cover it says that this book is an “international bestseller”, I don’t get why. I would’ve preferred if he, the author, had invited a couple of volunteers for an interview, with a purpose of reading and capturing their body responses to his questions, since he can’t use the material from his days in FBI. He might be an expert (how big of an expert he is on that is yet to be determined) on reading people, but fashion guru he is not.
Author trying to give an advice on how to dress to appeal (or not) too certain groups of people is quite funny and useless. Also consider that although you may deliberately want to use your attire to send a signal to one person or a group of people at a specific time and place, you may have to pass a lot of other people who are not as receptive to your message along the way! “It felt like the author was simply trying to fill up the book space. Funny thing: as I was writing this review, I had the book beside my Mac, for quotes, and noticed one funny thing about the book cover. In the book the author says that crossing the legs indicates that person is comfortable with the one s/he talking with (spread legs indicates dominance, who wants that?
I can’t help but think that after all the “secrets” he revealed, tips that he gave on how to read people, he himself, subconsciously chose a picture to be used on the book cover, which revealed him being insecure about his own work?What I particularly enjoyed about Joe Navarro’s teaching is that the body language itself is not enough to assume a particular emotion. So you see, while body language is telling you must also add other important clues up to come to a conclusion. Sure, not everyone would be easy to read but since reading this book I have been noticing more what certain body language is saying, and honestly it tends to run on the side of true.
Let me tell you something, even though this book is such a great eye opening book for having more successful conversations with ppl whom you don’t know, it can take away your peace. The way this book push you to concentrate more on the body language of people than their speech is somehow fluster. I know how hard it is to detect deception and I expected that this book was going to tell me 50 ways to spot a liar from various tells. I was pleasantly surprised to find that the author had a good grounding of the science behind body language and tons of field work (unlike the TSA, who with 15 minutes of training, can spot a terrorist just by looking at them). What the book does do is give you dozens and dozens of clues as to how a person is feeling at any given time. If what they are saying does not match their body language, this can be a tip that the person is being deceptive.
What the book doesn’t tell you is that to really make use of the information, one would have to read, re-read, study and practice with the book for a very long time to make the best use of this information. Since reading it, I’ve watched for some clues mentioned in the book in my personal relationships and found that. . . 1) they are really hard to observe without being noticed as looking for them. . . and 2) once observed, you need a lookup table to remember what they mean. Overall, I give the book high marks due to the professional nature of the writing and the admission that lie detection is in fact nearly impossible despite non-verbal clues and that might indicate the possibility of deception. For my own purposes, I think I’ll re-read this book in a few months to bolster what I have learned.
This book illustrates what people do with their body when they are afraid, nervous, happy. . . whatever. Insightful read if that kind of thing interests you, but particularly useful as an author to describe a scene. To explain why this book wasn’t really what I was hoping for, it would help to explain what I was hoping for: I am mildly autistic, and I have difficulty picking up on nonverbal social cues, particularly in informal environments like casual conversation, friendship, and dating. Every activist, counter-cultural figure, and free-thinker should read this book, if only to know how organizations like the FBI operate. Still, there’s a good deal to glean from this book, both in how to conduct oneself in a formal, conservative setting, as well as how to read people in social atmospheres.
Everyone is familiar with the concept of body language as expressed by simplistic, quasi-scientific rules such as these. One of the things I liked most about Navarro’s book is that it eschews basic X means Y type formulations and attempts to locate the art of reading body language in a broader, richer context that any matter relating to the highly complex matter of human psychology clearly deserves. Navarro himself was an FBI expert on reading body language, using his skills in the field and latterly to teach agents and law enforcement officers about the subject. Navarro appears decidedly well versed in the academic literature of his field, the text is well referenced and the list of further reading is extensive.
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Given this background, Navarro suggests we must begin by observing what a persons normal, comfortable behaviour looks like; establishing a control. A large part of this is asking neutral questions, in a neutral tone whilst using neutral body language yourself. One of the things that made me feel that there might be some truth to the claims made in this book was the fact that I began to notice that I was exhibiting some of the traits identified in exactly the kind of situations described without realising it!Once a ‘control’ of normal behaviour has been established we might move on to ask harder questions or broach more uncomfortable topics thus contrasting comfortable body behaviour with uncomfortable body behaviour. For example, if a person is saying they really like someone but all their body language is saying the polar opposite.
Isopraxism, or mirroring behaviour, is a very strong sign of comfort as is leaning in or angling of the torso towards your conversational partner. Nasal dilation or flaring of the nostrils is a preparation for action as it allows more oxygen to be taken into the muscles – this can mean persons limbic brain (animal part of the brain associated with non-verbal, unconscious movements as opposed to the neo-cortex which is associated with speech &c. )This can be displayed as a lack of movement, direction of eyes downward, shoulders hunched up, head down like the person is trying to hide.
When feeling uncomfortable, stressed or insecure about a question or topic of discussion people will often use pacifying movements to offset these feelings. Other signs associated with this type of behaviour are massaging earlobes, licking lips, stroking thighs with palms down, ventilating neck by moving collar or tossing hair Feet and legs tell us the most from a body language perspective and this may be because of their importance in hunting behaviourOrdinarily people talk toe to toe so if one person has L-shaped feet or their feet point away from the person towards the door this can mean they want to leaveBoth hands on knees, usually with a move forward or a lean, means that the person wants to leaveCrossed legs is a sign of comfort and confidence and may point in the direction of the person most favoured.
Hands up when making statements mean, ‘please, I beg you to believe me’ whereas hands down is a much more assertive behaviour. Full shrugs are a sign of confidence and are a ‘gravity defying behaviour’ (arms up, jumping, bouncing feet) which are almost always positive / comfortable / happyArm waving is a sign of elation whereas sinking arms are a sign that things are going against us – this is very visible in sportCrossed arms, especially restrained arms where the hand grips the bicep, and freezing of arm movement can be a sign of anxiety and attempts not to be noticed. When people are doing something they shouldn’t like stealing they also tend to restrict arm movement and look around a lot more than usual.
Arms akimbo is a territorial display of dominance and an authoritative pose indicating standing one’s ground, a position of authority but less so if the thumbs point forward – which makes it more inquisitive and concerned rather than dominantHands interlaced behind the head means I’m in charge and is also indicative of confidence or dominanceCloseness of hands and arms when sitting face to face with someone indicates comfort and confidence and vice-versaPeople like to be able to see hands when you are talking as it engenders trust, use them to express what you’re talking aboutShaking hands can indicate both joy and stress and can also result from Parkinson’s, injuries and alcoholism so this sign needs to be understood in contextSteepling is a high confidence indicator whereas interlocking and wringing is associated with stress or concern.
Unpleasant or negative emotions cause tension and result in clenched jaw, flared nostrils, fixed eyes, rigid, un-tilting head position, pursed lips and disappearing or squinting eyes, quivering lips, furrow lines on the forehead. Dilated pupils are associated with positive emotions and surprise whereas constricted pupils are usually associated with negative emotions as the eyes are trying to bring things into sharper focus because of a perceived danger or unpleasantnessRaised eyebrows are a gravity defying behaviour associated with confidence and happiness whereas lowered brows are associated with negative thoughts Hands in front of the eyes, touching the eyes or delayed opening and tight clenching shut are all associated with blocking negative or unwelcome thoughtsPeople look away to clarify thoughts without the distraction of a person’s face so this is neutral
It’s unclear when the reader should interrupt a sentence to read them, as they sometimes appear, or whether we should wait until the end of the book to review them as a distinct collection of narratives!The pictorial representations makes it easy to read even not-so avid readers could just take a couple of days or so to complete the entire book. In the book, Navarro demonstrates several types of body languages in pictorial format and then correlates those postures with real-life FBI past experience making his arguments even more convincing. Despite the fact that this book is well recognised in many circles, it is worth noting that some issues discussed are complex due to the fuzzy nature of the topics and lacks proper scientific evidence.
Most of Navarro’s illustrations in this book are based around the limbic part of the brain, which has no control of the human brain. The genius of this book doesn’t lie in its pages, but in how it modifies your behavior in every day life. I mean, the information is laid out in a pretty basic fashion and it can get a little wordy sometimes (it’s written like a conference speech) but it goes to work on your lymbic system (joke you’ll get if you read the book :P) You’ll start noticing which ways torsos bend and who is steepling his hands in meetings at work. Much helpful, and realistic information is presented here about reading body language and non-verbals. I was probably fascinated by it before then, especially when I was a baby and had to rely on gestures to understand how people were feeling, but this is the first time that I have been consciously fascinated by non-verbal behavior.
After I purchased this book and had read several chapters, my family and I traveled to D. C. We spent a lot of time on the Metro over the course of the trip, and putting my new-found skills to use, I attempted to read the body language of everyone on the metro. This led to some interesting discoveries, and I was amazed at how easy it is to “read” people on a basic level. However, I was also really happy to find that the common non-verbal behaviors Navarro points out, things that I would have never noticed, really took my observations to a higher level. The book has great insights into body language and nonverbal communication. I was going to give it 3 stars because I didn’t like the writing, it seemed very repetitive and at sometimes boring, but I changed my mind to 4 stars because, as this was my 1st read into body language, it had a lot of new info to me.
– establish a baseline of the person’s behavior before you attempt to read him/her. – it is the ‘change’ in body language to which we must pay attention rather than there mere signs. – The body language of deceitful people are normally not in sync with what they’re saying. Former FBI agent Joe Navarro writes clearly,gives many anecdotes and pictures describing truthful and lying behaviors. When he was a boy of eight, newly arrived from Cuba, he learned which people liked him (their eyes widened slightly) and which people didn’t (their eyes squinted slightly). Perhaps, but I’ve read plenty of academic journals and many of them are more fun to read than this book. I mean, I thought the contents were interesting (even if everything I read wasn’t new to me), however, the writing itself was mediocre and kind of boring.
* Pretty basic, because to make conclusions from just some expressions is a fake and wouldn’t lead to real understanding of people. Doesn’t work for some people, who have exceptional ability to fake or mask expressions, or rather (as it’s almost impossible to fake micro-expressions), in cases, when you don’t give enough of the attention. It tells one simple thing – when talking, if talking, people tend to say *everything* about them without their conscious knowledge. Basically, because most (talking) people are talking by some reason and that reason almost always is their weakness.
Over years I’ve come to one realization, some changes can’t come without some force, aggressive people understand only force and knowledge about deeper human motives can create more lasting force. Book has some mentions of jumping to conclusions, but those are not enough, we tend to rush for conclusions and because of that we’re not good mind “readers”. The book also introduces a lot of methods to reveal the worried people, frightened ones and those who hide behind a mask of fake feelingsThe thing I liked the most about it. . is that all the tricks and infos he presented aren’t absolute. . You can find people who shake their legs constantly as a habit. . Not because they are nervous all the time. Thus you should know before reading that all this infos are BASICS. . That you have been ignoring when not seeing body languages
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